Four Proven Steps for Anger Management
“Don’t sin by letting anger control you. Think about it overnight and remain silent. Offer sacrifices in the right spirit, and trust the LORD.”
Psalm 4:4-5 (NLT)
Anger. We’ve all felt it. Is anger a sin? Notice in this Psalm that the Bible doesn’t say it is a sin to be angry; rather, “Don’t sin by letting anger control you…” Psalm 4:4a (NLT). If anger controls you, it will lead you to sin, like it did Cain. Cain was jealous of his brother, Abel, and became very angry. In Genesis 4:6-7 (NLT), God speaks to Cain, “‘Why are you so angry?’ the LORD asked Cain. ‘Why do you look so dejected? You will be accepted if you do what is right. But if you refuse to do what is right, then watch out! Sin is crouching at the door, eager to control you. But you must subdue it and be its master.’”
Despite that warning, anger got the best of Cain, and in a fit of rage, he killed his own brother. Anger, out of control, destroys lives. Cain would spend the rest of his life as “… a homeless wanderer on the earth!” Genesis 4:12b (NLT)
So, how can we avoid the wilderness of uncontrollable anger? David offers four steps to manage our anger in Psalm 4:4-5 (NLT) when he says, “Don’t sin by letting anger control you. Think about it overnight and remain silent. Offer sacrifices in the right spirit, and trust the LORD.” Let’s identify those four steps:
1. “Think about it overnight….”
The apostle Paul quotes this Psalm in Ephesians 4:26-27 (NLT) and says, “And ‘don’t sin by letting anger control you.’ Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil.” If we allow what provoked our anger to fester, it will become out of control and result in rage, giving the devil a foothold in our lives. Satan desires that foothold so he may develop a stronghold over our emotions. Paul advises us to deal with that emotional trigger quickly before we go to bed at night. Let it go in prayer, and then you can think about the issues or actions that triggered your anger better. Another translation puts this Psalm like this: “In your anger do not sin; when you are on your beds, search your hearts and be silent. Selah” (NIV) At night, when you are alone on your bed, you are able to search your heart; you are able to think with better clarity and seek God’s wisdom in responding.
2. “… and remain silent.”
Explosive anger is unproductive and often leads to verbal outbursts we later regret. Take a step back and remain silent until you can speak the truth in love.
3. “Offer sacrifices in the right spirit….”
It’s a sacrifice to offer a right spirit when you’re angry. The Psalmist, David, speaks to our motives when we’re angry, the intentions of our heart. Are they aligned with God’s heart? Rather than reacting in anger, use your anger for constructive change. Respond in a right spirit.
4. “… and trust the LORD.”
The only way to effectively release my anger, search my heart, and respond in the right spirit is by trusting in God. You may not be able to control how you feel, but you can give your feelings to God’s care and control and trust Him to direct you.
Another important part of your daily devotional is spending time with God in prayer. The Woodlands Church Prayer Board lists prayer requests submitted by our members and provides a way to send them some encouragement by using a button on the page to let them know that you prayed for them. Whether you use the Prayer Board, or pray from your heart, the goal is to build the habit of incorporating prayer into your quiet time.
Need prayer yourself? Let us know by submitting a prayer request on the Woodlands Church Prayer Board.